Besides running GayHankies.com, the other half of my work comprises programming and consulting for some clients who have their own web sites. One of them, my friend Keith, has proclaimed that this month is the “Month of the Sex Pig.” Makes sense, since September started with Decadence and ends right after Folsom Street.

We’d planned to launch a new web site for him and his business the beginning of this month, but technical and personal issues caused some delay. But here we are, finally online. If you’re a pig, or just dream piggy dreams, go here to check out Adopt A Sex Pig.

As for me, these days I have to admit that my Pig Credentials have expired. Yes, there was a time when I spent hours at Slammer, and there was a time when my ex and I hosted sex parties of upwards of seventy guys at our home, and there was a time when I used to drive out to the park on lunch hour, suck some cock, then happily go back to work. And there’s a time when I fucked guys in a bar, right in front of my partner with his endorsement (”Have fun, dear!”), then went back to share a drink. There’s a lot of other things I used to do, up and down the hanky code, but I won’t go into the details right here and now.

Now my life is much quieter.

Perhaps it’s the onset of middle age, or perhaps it’s me becoming more domesticated. With my partner now non-sexual with his health issues, with two hyperactive dogs and a cat, with a house and yard, with a business, and more, there’s always things happening to keep me here. Yes, Dorothy, there really is no place like home, if the home is happy and fulfilling.

Working with porn sites and hook-up sites, I do get a little overexposed to sex. One naked picture starts to look much like another. And when you’re writing a database that lets guys record their dick sizes and sexual tastes – over and over and over again – it can get old. Or as my sister told my brother when he joined the Navy twenty-fixe years ago, “It’s not just an adventure, it’s a job.”

Honestly, I’d love to put some of the adventure back into life, and into sex. On the other hand, with the opportunities and occasions reduced these days, I’m choosier than ever. My partner and I have always been “open,” and more than that, we always talked about finding a third man to add to our household. For me, that Pig site is fun for “window shopping.” But in my real life, not the fantasy, the best adventure has always come when I run into a man unexpectedly. Something clicks. We simply have to connect, either for a few minutes, or — in the case of my partner — for six years and counting.

If you’ve been around here for awhile, you know that GayHankies.com is a one-man show. It’s just me who processes the orders, ships the packages, manages the inventory, handles the correspondence, and everything else. Once in awhile, I have to be away, and that’s happening more often lately.

One of my reasons for being self-employed and working at home is so I can be here for my partner. He’s a lifelong diabetic and long-term HIV survivor, and more and more health challenges pop up for him every year. I won’t go into all the gory details right now. Some days are good, some days are bad, and some days are, well, complicated.

Last Friday was a complicated day, and tomorrow will be even more so. He’s having outpatient surgery, and we’ll be away all day. Shouldn’t be a big deal, more time-consuming and inconvenient for him than anything else… Still.

Wish us the best.

I’ve been writing a lot about problems with leaky bottles of KIX. Several customers have written to let me know that they received leaky bottles, and for each one I’m working out a solution — either a replacement bottle or a refund or something else.

I’m having the same problem. My last shipment from Europe contained more leaky bottles than not. I contacted the vendor, and they will give me a credit on the next shipment, but that doesn’t help if it keeps on happening again and again. It’s a great product — in fact, KIX is my personal favorite — but I might have to drop it if the situation does not improve.

Today, I once again have just a few bottles of KIX left, and I’m getting ready to order more from the vendor soon. It’s pretty much the last shot. If I get more leaky bottles, I can’t keep trying. Whatever happens, I’ll post it here.

A couple of times lately I’ve heard from guys who wrote that their bottles of KIX had leaked in shipment. It’s happened again, this time in my inventory. Right now, I don’t have any more KIX in-stock except for a couple of leaky bottles which I’m going to put on clearance — after I tighten the bottle caps!

More KIX is on order from the vendor in Europe, and I hope it will arrive by the end of next week. In the meantime, you can still shop for KIX, and I’ll fill your order when it comes back in stock.

And by the way, if ever you have a problem with leaky or broken bottles in shipment, send me an email and we’ll work out a solution for you, whether that’s a refund, replacement, or something else. As always, I’m eager to keep my customers happy and keep you coming, and coming back.